Ok so he “sometimes” or “often” is a neglectful parent making bad decisions. There’ve been times when you posted about his bad decisions daily or few times a day or just often. So it appears that it happens “always”. Of course it’s possible that he does make good decisions in between bad ones. We aren’t there to observe. I mainly meant that I perhaps don’t understand your last post. It sounded like you had a concern over two bad parenting decisions but then there seemed to be no concern anymore.

I notice you do it a lot and it’s common for abuse victims. You describe unacceptable or inappropriate actions of your partner but then try to rationalize them and find excuses for his behaviors. Or you find his actions wrong and express concerns but then soon after these events are rationalized as “no big deal”. Sadly it’s all very common.

I do know you aren’t leaving him so it’s understandable you have to find ways to manage