You know, I think he is incorrect. T's working with patients who have abusive histories (as I am assuming you do because of the DID), are supposed to be aware that the transferance can get negative. And yes, even some disorders like personality disorders can really have terrible negative transferance and outburts that are not pleasant.

T's are supposed to decide about working with you. If they can't accept behavior that might come with your disorder or the transferance they should not be working with you. For example, some T's will not work with people with anti-social personality disorder because they can get violent in session and throw things.

That being said, my T always said that it is important that she set appropiate boundaries, so when I get disrespectful, she would discuss it with me. NEVER throw me out!