Another spiritual medium told me that the life lesson for me is discernment. This means discernment of good from bad people. It makes sense to me since I’ve been given many lessons and opportunities in love, in terms of learning how to be more discerning. I didn’t do so great with my husband, but he’s now proving himself to be the man I want and need and the man I initially fell in love with.

Discernment extends to friends and acquaintances. I’ve been learning how to only include people in my circle who truly support me and want the best for me. Jealous people, negative and mentally unhealthy people I have no room for.

I used to adopt all the wounded birds. All that ever did was drag down my own energy level and enthusiasm for life. These types of people drained me. Not only that, but they used me too, to help keep themselves afloat. Well no more. I’m not allowing anyone anymore to take advantage of my kindheartedness, my compassion and my heart. I’ve been used far too many times by energy vampire people who are just takers. I’m done.

Discernment also applies to dealings in everyday life. I can choose to not engage with angry, rude, surly, negative and argumentative people. When I choose to not engage, I’m much more at peace.

And that’s all I want at the ripe age of 50- inner peace and positive energy people around me who love, support, encourage and appreciate me..

I’ve found a nice circle of new-ish friends who are just that: loving, kindhearted, and positive-minded without drama and without any bs. I love my circle of friends now.

I’ve kicked a few people to the curb over the years. Mainly energy vampires.

On Facebook, I’m only friends with people I know. And I’m going to keep it that way.

So discernment has been a very hard but valuable lesson. Because I was too open in the past, I allowed in many creeps and vampires. No more.