@Going Gray welcome to Psych Central. I am sorry you are in the middle of a firestorm of criticism. No one should have to deal with that.

I try to follow the breath and not react. That is my saving grace. If they are out of control I take myself out of the situation the best I can.

Hope you find a way to self care. That is the most important. Could be a yoga class online (Adrienne on youtube) or some exercises (5 minute Tai Chi on youtube) The most important thing is for you to take care of yourself.