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Old Jul 19, 2020, 12:11 PM
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Originally Posted by MsLady View Post
Yep! If I were to leave him, knowing his personality, the emotional blackmail is likely to play out. He's codependent, at the very least.. so he says. He cannot be alone. Our girls would take my replacement.. and that would potentially embark on emotional parentification.
That's why I suggested talking to a lawyer to get a free consultation and obtain the legal facts. Can he really legally obtain 60% custody? His accusations of abuse are unfounded. You nudged him at the door, or leaned into him, but that IMO should not deemed as "physical abuse". Physical abuse would be outright hitting him with the intent to harm. His allegations should not stand in a court of law, but I think it would be best to arm yourself with education and knowledge of how things would work legally if and when you do separate. At least you can empower yourself with knowledge of how the legal system works and perhaps it would assuage your fears of leaving him.
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Thanks for this!
MsLady