My T and I drifted too far from a therapy relationship to a personal one, and it imploded. He said it is beaten into their heads that boundaries and several feet of emotional distance is sacrosanct. As we got into uncharted territory, we lost our way commensurate with how he lost objectivity. Do I think they can truly care, truly love, truly get blindsided by their own countertransference- yes. Do I think it is easy at all to maintain a perfect balance between authentically caring and not caring too much or in the wrong way? No.