Agreed. When I was looking for lawyers, I stumbled upon a site that helped me to identify lawyers who had experience with abusive partners. I don't have the site anymore so I can't send the link, but as I had suggested before, I would call lawyers to start empowering myself with education and knowledge of the legal process and my legal rights within the parental relationship .I would also want to know how to legally protect myself from accusations of abuse and from the splitting and parental alienation that is going on.

I agree that he is setting her up in the case of a separation and divorce, which is what abusive partners do.