My T went over a few general rules with me that I think are interesting in contrast...

Intense sexual or erotic feelings towards a T are normal and we can talk about them any time. If a client acts on those feelings (try to seduce) he will help the client contain the behavior and work with the client on talking through the feelings. He will not reject or punish the client nor will he reciprocate.

Belittling him he sees as a sign of inner distress in the client that will work itself out through the course of therapy. He doesn’t take it personally or to heart.

Now, the third one we have touched on... I have a part that often wants to punch him. He has said strong feelings are welcomed but we have to have boundaries on our behaviors. He said if I took a swing at him 1. It would shock him so much I would probably get the first one in BUT 2. He would contain the behavior so that no one got hurt. We then talked about why I was LMAO. I can’t punch worth anything. If the part really wanted to hurt him she would need a weapon she could swing or she would use her legs. The whole point of punching him would to be contained. He said that after this covid stuff, when it is safe we can do some activities in his office that will allow her to physically express those needs... I don’t think he has any intention of being a punching bag though.

One thing my T is annoyingly good at is taking ALL the fun out of any acting out behaviors.