I had two that were 23 months apart. I had a side by side double umbrella stroller. It was the greatest, and they loved sitting together, rather than one in front of the other.

When you say you take a two hour break, I’d take plenty of breaks from him, but I’d take the kids with me if they are home. If they are at preschool (the three year old), my break was when the baby was napping. My breaks were when the kids were sleeping. I’d drive with the two in my car and go anywhere else without him, if you need breaks from him. If he is being unreasonably needy and clingy to be attached to you and don’t want that, I’d just tell him that it’s too much togetherness and you want to spend more time apart. What will he do to you if you take time apart?

I know this pandemic is an unusual situation. You both must be working from home. Do you at least have those hours in separate rooms?

The incidents you mentioned; the push/lean, the swing, the sleep time vilifying you to your daughter (telling her you were going to harm her...WTH?), none of those incidents are worthy of being brought up in a divorce case. They only messed with your and your daughter’s mind. No police were called. There’s no proof and to put your daughter through retelling it wouldn’t be healthy for her.

Yes, keep documenting all you can. The photo with the baby on the swing, dated. Anything else that is material to you in a law suit.