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Originally Posted by divine1966
I’d try to find other ways to hold your daughter without hurting her. Not trying to defend your partner but the whole situation looks a bit in a different light. He took it too far of course but his initial reactions might not be that different from how other people would react
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I get what you're saying. My daughter's behaviours were not at all out of the ordinary. He KNOWS this. Originally he said he came in to help settle her.. not because he thought I was hurting her. His way of "helping" was to disregard our behaviour plan.
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That’s why it’s important she sleeps in a toddler bed where she can climb in and out without having to be carried on and off grown up bed. It seems to be causing problems. If your daughter gets repeatedly hurt (not saying intentionally) he could use it against you.
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She's able to get on/off the bed alone. She was just misbehaving, prior to. The plan is, if she's unsettled for bed, she goes to the rocking chair (independently) and returns to bed when she's ready. We've done this successfully, multiple times. Sometimes, if she's in a mood, I physically prompt her off. I always frontload her, first. I give her multiple chances to make that choice for herself. When she yelled and woke her sister, I physically prompted her off the bed. I told her I was going to snd I was calm and in control of the situation. We have since used this "plan" again, with success. It wasn't about the bed. It was about her mood. She had been tantruming prior to going to bed. Dad is in the know of this. Nothing alarming and definitely no foul play.
HE was feeling wounded.
I have been adjusting myself so she's not still getting hurt. It's not a daily occurrence, either. But ua, he'll likely use ANYTHING against me because it's he who has a criminal record.. not me.