That's a really interesting question, freewill. My T has told me it is OK for me to get angry at him and I have a couple of times. He handled it wonderfully. I have not sweared at him, but we have used swear words in each other's presence. I haven't called him names but I did tell him once he was clueless. I have raised my voice, but not at him.

There are two things I can think of that he set boundaries about. One was not to put words in his mouth. Because one time I told him what he thought/said and he denied it and I immediately saw I was in the wrong, and apologized. Another time, he felt I had gone behind his back to complain about him to someone else and he told me that if I had a problem with him, I needed to come straight to him and tell him. Well, I never even did this so as we talked we clarified what really happened, but I did learn from that not to do what he had thought I did. So these are the two boundary things so far that I have discovered.