My T does not set limits on behavior. I have asked him if I can be mad at him and if I can hate him. I have cursed him out on the phone while in the midst of a huge transference. Hmmm, well I try to behave the way that I would want to be treated in person. So, if I cursed him out in person and then he got angry I suppose I would deserve it because I wouldn't want him to treat me that way.