Thank you everyone for your thoughts. I'll address key comments/questions soon.

Due to my paranoia last night, I did probe him with further questions to see where he's at with us.

He said he would like for us to keep moving forward and have "level discussion" and "positive communication" in order for "me" to heal and us to grow and rebuild our relationship .. be a "happy and healthy" couple and love each other and raise our family together in a "positive and loving home".. He knows I'm hurt and in a difficult and stressful position and "helping me heal and feel better" is important to him and for our relationship.

I then asked him what he was wanting from me. He said to "love him".. and be "happy".

I told him I didn't feel we were in an equal relationship (at the very least) and he said that it's partly because he sees me as being "superior" or him as being "inferior" and that I see it this way, too. I mentioned that he's said this same thing about his mom and sister.. they are 2 strong women in the family. He then concluded that he may have an "inferiority complex" I believe has nothing to do with me.

So out of that, he's planning on booking another appointment with his therapist to talk about this piece, as he's never brought it up before.

To me, it explains a lot. I feel it's a gender issue, just by the previous concerns I've had with him around other women.. like he doesn't respect them and objectifies them. When he's upset with me about a rejection/attack, these feelings undoubtedly come flooding out. There's a lot of history behind him that is being directed at me. I'm curious to know how his next appointment will be for him.

At the end of the conversation, he said he loved me and is committed to me and our family and want nothing more than all of us to be happy and live long and loving lives together.

The conversation was more involved than that and I expressed how his behaviours are eating away at what he's claiming to want from me.. etc. This is the gist of our texts.