That is a very sad story. If you are already full steam ahead in divorce then I wish you luck. I would recommend quitting pornography all together for a year before pursuing another woman. When you no longer require any pornography at all, go ahead and look for a woman who is more adventurous! I wouldn't recommend, though, looking for someone who is in to extreme forms of sex like you see in porn. Those are actors, and the reality of it is much darker than it appears. I recommend you do a search for "no-fap" and at least give it a try with an open mind. Good luck!