Good questions. Mostly I am on a self inquiry and have come to realize that there are some things important to me that I have not accepted and embraced. It is hard to do this keeping it all from my wife. Why do I keep it from her? Because I think that that nature of who I am reflects the nature of who she is. If my nature is atypical and she has accepted it, unconsciously, then it may say something about the nature of her, too.

Let me share something from my web reading: OH! I can't find it now.... It basically said that a male, who sees him/herself as more a woman, but is sexually attracted to women, is somewhere on the queer scale other than straight, more like lesbian. That is obvious. By extension, a woman who is consciously or sub-consciously attracted to a man like that is not exactly being attracted to an average straight man, and therefore also somewhere on the queer scale other than straight.

Does that make sense?

What my big concern is when my wife starts reflecting on what all this means to her, it is not just my issue. It is her's too. There is a real can of worms here.

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