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Originally Posted by MsLady
He is responsible for his own actions and had I not reacted in the first place, it wouldn't have gone that far. I definitely fueled it, but where he took it afterwards, is certainly 100% his fault. I made that very clear with him.
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Have you told him point blank that his threats and accusations are entirely unacceptable behavior? That he cannot be saying these things to you, and in particular, in front of your children? Have you told him that you will not tolerate any further threats from him, splitting behaviors and accusations of abuse in front of your kids and to his family and friends? That if he loves you for real and if he wants things to be happy and stable between you, then he must act and behave with loving behavior at all times?
And my apologies if you have already said in this thread that you've told him this. I know you've said to him that he has been abusive, that he was at fault, and to address it in therapy.