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Originally Posted by Omers
I try and tell T as soon as possible after. It was a lot easier before COVID for him to reassure me. T knows being “too much” is a huge fear so he tends to be extra careful about that one. When in doubt he will often just say in session “Omers, I am not going to push you away or reject you”... sometimes he is off and that has nothing to do with what is going on but it is always good to hear.
But it helped when he could reach out, put his hand on top of mine and say “I’m right here”
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T has always been very careful how she words things when it comes to my abandonment issues. When I me tion fear of being too needy or dependent she tells me it is okay for me to depend on her and if I am "becoming to needy" which she doesnt see happening we will discuss it. I told her once after long term Ts death, I feared losing her too. We talked about how that is totally understandable given the situation. While she doesnt know what life will being she has no intention of leaving or going anywhere.