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Old Jul 22, 2020, 05:50 PM
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I posed this question to my betterhelp.com therapist. He said..

[I]Yes, I think that it is possible to have a genuine caring relationship with a therapist. However, I suppose it depends on how you define a genuine and caring relationship. A relationship with a therapist will always have boundaries like any professional relationship. Yes, one of these boundaries is that you are paying the therapist to provide a service. As a result, some may consider this relationship to be artificial. I do not find the relationship to be necessarily artificial, but it certainly is distinct from the more organic relationships in our personal lives.

Therapeutic relationships are also one-sided. The focal point is the client and not the therapist. Even when the focal point is the interaction between the client and the therapist, the focus remains on the client, their functioning within this relationship, and how this relates to their functioning outside in the "real world."/I]
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
Thanks for this!
Amyjay, newday2020