I told my therapist that I thought it was 'normal' for some clients to fantasize about having sex with their T. He said yes, but that it wasn't really about him, just transference.

I get that this would normally be the case, but if it could never be about him, then is it because he isn't really there? Like the real him. Do they leave their true selves at the door to protect themselves from the things we say and do to them?

I did ask him and he said he was his real self, but it's not something they could really admit to I suppose.