My T is absolutely his real self with me the only exception being if acting on his feeling or what ever would do me harm. He may do this more with me than with others as I do best in therapy with a real person not a blank slate in a lab coat. I have access to information about his non-professional life and I often laugh at just how much he is exactly the same in other settings as he is in his office. Again, his boundaries have to be different but he is so very totally the same person... goofiness, foibles, big heart, hard working, sometimes totally off base, usually 5 min late... and always with the best intentions.