He's not rewriting what happened as his story never changed, although there's been some discrepancies. When I explained what happened from my end, he accused "me" of changing the story.

I'm trying to figure out in my head why things escalated to that point. It was completely uncalled for.

Part of me feels he went through momentary "paranoia" believing I was really there to "take her away" and putting him into "protective" mode.

Part of me feels he was upset with me about the rejection, went into "splitting" mode and reacted.

Now a part of me is wondering if he's just gaslighting.. and was behaving in a way that was working because he was "winning" our daughter over with the things he was saying. The story he told her later was that he was yelling to "help" her.
That's right. But I did "push" (lean) into him to get out. He was yelling at me. I wanted him out the room. In the second scenario, he kept shouting he was going to call the police.. so she passed that on.