My T sounds like Omer's T. I know how she thinks and feels about many things because of the nature of how we work together. I may not see how she interacts with her family and friends but I know enough of her as a person. Ive worked with therapists in the past who havent shared anything at all about themselves but the connection has still been real and genuine so I'm not stating that the T is only real if they share stuff. It's just that current T brings so much more of herself into the room with me.