This is an ongoing power play with him and he is using your daughter to triangulate against you.
This is what narcissists do, in fact, this is what my sister did to me by using my old and very fragile parents to hurt me all the while she was stealing thousands from them. She did the same thing where she baited in an effort to get me to react so she could say she is the victim. She manipulated and completely confused them. I am so sorry you are experiencing this because it really does create a sense of powerlessness. And YES, these kind of toxic people will look to use whatever they learn about abuse that THEY are doing to twist it to their advantage
Why Nothing Is Simple Around a Narcissist
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Narcissists love drama. And making things messy and toxic distracts from their own messy and toxic behaviors.
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Also, they get bored without "drama" it gives them a narcissistic feed. They LOVE playing the "oh poor me role" even though THEY are the ones that created the problem in the first place. They want YOU to solve their problems so if something goes wrong they have someone to blame.
They are extortionists and use anything they happen to learn to extort. They are looking for anything that can bring them a sense of power, and playing the victim will be included in that.