I did not enable him to carry on being the way he was with me. I didn't invite the pain. I wanted to be happy and independent. I was young and he made me feel powerless. I tried to leave him. The doctors encouraged me to still aim for a career. I think he felt a malicious satisfaction in bringing me down. What I went through shouldn't be happening in Modern Britain. But yes I know that domestic violence is still a huge problem in western democracies.
But sorry open eyes. You were correct in saying that after trauma a person needs to heal first. Seven years since it ended. Reliving traumatic memories too soon is not conducive to a person recovering. I had to get away from everything first. I mean everything and everybody.