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Originally Posted by MsLady
It's more about the principle. I ended up paying $50 when we could have all paid $13ea. The neighbours did not compromise at all. They didn't offer an earlier time or offer to pay their portion. They didn't budge at all. Then my partner turned it around and made it about me and my wants. I think it's pretty rigid on their end so I just paid for it to put an end to it.
Once again the responsibility became mine and I ended up being the "bad guy".
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Did the neighbor play you?
They can’t call you the bad guy. That doesn’t make sense, so don’t put weight into that.
Does your husband think your opinion about the subject was wrong?
Does he think you’re the bad guy? For what?
Does he not appreciate that you want the carport pressure washed tomorrow?
He thinks it’s selfish?
It seems like he agreed with your logic, but doesn’t care about pressure washing, so says it’s about him supporting your wants...why? to make it meaningful? It’s just pressure washing.
Or is he “supporting you” in opposition to his sister (while bailing her out 25 bucks)?
Is he using the carport thing to express feelings/thoughts he is having about other stuff?
The carport ordeal sounds annoying, but I hope you will still be able to enjoy your clean fresh space tomorrow.
It sounds like resentment is quite high around there right now. I’m sorry and I hope tomorrow is better and safer.
Re the one year old, maybe the idea of passing them asleep between parents needs to go? Maybe it’s better to just lay the baby down about ten minutes after they fall asleep on a shoulder. That way it can’t be a disagreement between you two.