Yeah my point was, monogamy was not the issue. More like, a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush? Or does that need to be rewritten? A bird on the line is worth more than one in hand, because it will bite the hand that feeds it. To mix some metaphors!

Fantasy is easier in some some aspects than reality. I spend my fantasy time here. Why criticize the OP or her friend for how they spends theirs? Let him who is without sin cast the first stone. They are just talking online. No big deal.