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Originally Posted by kateyesofgreen
You are definitely describing the wound after the wound of secrecy following abuse. It can be excruciating.
The main paralyzing emotion for me around this is Shame. Shame leads to hiding. Pushing through shame in order to tell trusted and safe others is hard work. But only then have I experienced the antidote to shame--loving acceptance. People who say "it was never your fault, and it's the perpetrator who bears the guilt and blame and true shame."
I've needed to use imagery and physical exercise and spiritual disciplines to really peel the shame and secrecy off myself and put it back where it belongs. And I do so repeatedly even after therapy because the little girl I was needs regular reminding that she is an empowered woman now!
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Thanks for the post! That helped me identify where the problem comes from, that is shame. I feel the healing and empowerment by the truth you pointed out.