I agree with Starry. I have DID too and I have so much work to do. If my T did not push me I would never get better. My T does not put up with listening to me ramble on about the problem of the day unless I express it using my feeling words and am willing to work on a solution to fix or tolerate it better.
We mainly work on EMDR to whittle away at all of my trauma but we do take a break every few sessions (we meet twice a week) and that is always focused on more improvements and goals.

That being said I have made tremendous progress with this T despite me disliking him quite often. He is the first T that was able to diagnose my DID.

I had another T that I saw for quite awhile years ago and she didn't push ne at all or set any type of goals. I just went in and we talked about whatever I felt like at the time. I didn't make any progress with her.

It us not easy nut I do prefer to be pushed because I want to get better and feel like a normal human as quickly as possible.

The decision is actually up to you. If your T lets you take the lead tell them you would like to be challenged more. IMO I think a lot of T don't push clients because it us easier on them to just let the client take the lead and the slower the progress the more stable the income. This is just my opinion I am not trying to start a debate.