Selfish? No. I see it as survival. Frankly, not one person in my life really wants to know how I'm doing. They give lip service. My mom knows I have a bipolar diagnosis but ignores any discussion of my mental health so I don't tell her. Recently, Inhad a scary manic episode and was delusional. I told her. Her response was to change the subject to her. People don't really want to know.