Yes, there are definite mental health issues, but they blame it all on me. It's so easy to say, "I'm this way because you were a bad parent" - before I told eldest child they had to leave, they used to say, "I'd be fine if I didn't have to be around YOU all the time" - part of me hoped it was true, when they left, because then they'd be fine and I wouldn't have to feel so guilty all the time for existing.