I also prefer a therapist that will push me. I went into therapy to walk through whatever fire I needed to in order to get to the other side, so I chose therapists who would be straight with me and challenge me. They knew when I was not in a place for that, but I'd say 85% of the time, pushing was just fine with me. Mind you, it wasn't about telling me what to do or me needing him to tell me what to do - that probably isn't helpful for building autonomy. It was more about challenging me to have agency in my own life, etc.

Talk to your therapist. I can't remember how long you've been seeing this particular one. If it hasn't been that long, she may still be feeling you out to see what your therapy style is - I think clients have styles just like therapists and it can take some time to find the right mode of interaction. It might have something to do with it being teletherapy and the awkwardness of that. Let her know what you need.