I believe I’ve been living with an emotional and mental abuser for a long time now. I feel like I’m walking on eggshells all the time. His emotions go from 0 to 60.

He grew up with a lot of abuse as well. It’s gotten to the point where I feel scared but even feels scarier to get out. The car is in his name, we share pets.

He’s not all bad but I feel like I’ve lost my independence and my sanity. I’m exhausted. I work in the arts and when I get work, I have to work. My partner gets upset when I work and when I don’t work. There’s no pleasing him. I work to try to pay half of everything and in order to do that I have to work as much as I can. But then he gets angry at me for working too much. Then When I’m struggling to pay my half when I’m not working as much, he’s still just as angry.

Today we were out at Costco and he yelled at me in public about how slow I am and how I’m in LaLa land. I’m really just trying to be considerate of other people and not rushing and he’s so angry that he has to deal with people who won’t move out of his way. He threatened me when we got to the car and said that he can’t wait to get out of the city and not have to deal with all of these idiots and me. You see I made the mistake of trying to talk to him about how I don’t like the way he treats me and how he talks down to me earlier In The day, so there was a blow up in the parking lot. I might as well be a door matt.

He never ever does house work or dishes or clean up after the pets. That’s what I’m expected to do to make up for the fact that I do t earn as much as him and so I can pay my way. I co Stanton clean up after him and I get no recognition or validation. If I even try to discuss it with him, he gets angry. I can’t say anymore or the anger escalates and I get scared. I’ve never been hit but doors have been slammed and broken, things have been thrown. I don’t want to press my luck in any case. I just want a calm relaxed environment. I recently opened up to a friend who has been staying on and off at our house and even he said he noticed how my partner was putting me down and how quick he is to anger. There are more things I could say but we’d be here for forever.

Bottom line, I am getting to the point where I’m consistently miserable and I need to talk to a therapist of some sort. I was always a happy go lucky person and now I’m anything but. I was thinking of seeing a psychiatrist as OHIP covers it but I need a referral and have to wait for awhile. Anyone recommend other kinds of therapy that might help?