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Old Jul 28, 2020, 09:24 AM
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Originally Posted by Ella891 View Post
Thank you.

He has been touching me sexually within the workplace yes and there were witnesses in that they walked by and looked over at us when this happened. I don’t think anything was said by them but at the time this happened I wasn’t really in a stable frame of mind and I didn’t say anything at the time.

I see this guy as a professional and he’s well known in the building and during that time he had taken me off to ask me if I was ok, then said I’m a good worker etc. I’m sorry if this might seem naive as it’s been suggested by some (not on this site) that it does because I didn’t react but my judgment just felt...clouded and it still does at times.

I was abused as a child and that guy was a monster from the outset. This one to me doesn’t seem to be because he has been nice to me but I think there might be something I am not seeing and he knows that perhaps?

I reported him to ethics team and they want me to give them my name and his name. Husband says I could make this guy angry.
Hugs to you.

Unwanted sexual touching that is not asked for or wanted in any way is sexual harassment. I hope you pursue this report with the ethics team. You can tell them that you were so stunned by the behavior at the time, that you didn't know what to do or how to react, but make it clear that it was unwanted sexual touching.

It's understandable given your history that you did not know how to respond. But this man should be fired for this behavior. Who cares if he's nice otherwise. What he did is not allowed in the workplace. He should face the consequences for this behavior. And you should not have to deal with sexual harassment at work.
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