Okay... so I go back and forth on this often but the longer we’re together , the more it bothers me. We’ve been in an apartment since we’ve been together a few years ago and I am constantly trying to figure out ways to improve our situation. To grow as a couple, to just get more living space... my bf is sweet. He loves to do things with and for me without me asking sometimes too much and i get annoyed and ask him to stop( if i find out he over spent on something). The problem comes when I suggest taking a vacation, or moving, he’ll say we don’t have the money to do so..... for me, i have to get out and do things or my mental health absolutely tanks. And i dont need to spend money to be active, but occassionally i like to actually travel into the city , not since covid, but ya know take a weekend to go camping or whatever, but he doesnt want to, even if i say id pay.... well i casually brought up moving again, i looked for places where we could both thrive financially as we both hate our jobs but he is better off in his current job than i am in mine... he insists he doesnt want to move and i dont know why.. his family is near by but he literally never speaks or talks to them... he says his friends are here??? But he rarely sees them either and even they were talking of moving since they got married... i just feel so stuck as if he wants to give me simple things so i will be content with where we are, yet he’s uncomfortable himself in the current situation. Even when i tell him id help he like... wants to do it on his own yet he has no real plan. It took me months to get a real answer as to how much he wanted to put down on a house.. I just feel like everything is like pulling teeth and i just want to not feel so trapped, so depressed, so anxious about our future, but he doesnt mind just going through the motions of life with no real plan for the future.. and it concerns me... how do i know we’ll ever move? Get married? Have kids? When everytime i ask a question i get “ [emoji52] idk” as a response, or he changes the subject... he’ll compliment my makeup, or my outfit instead of giving me an answer... it’s so frustrating... I’m sorry everyone I just had to vent....