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Jul 28, 2020, 07:00 PM
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Originally Posted by will19
First of all I struggle myself. I don't have much going for me socially. I just talk to a friend by phone only and to my sister. That's all I have. I feel like I'm clueless as to how I can connect with others. I get the feeling that, at best, people like me but not crazy about me enough that they would want to do things with me. And then there are those that just don't like me and hardly know me.
About your upstairs neighbor, he sounds like me. I exercise (I had lifted weights but switched to band resistance because my downstairs neighbor complained to the apartment manager) and listen to music. But I don't listen to music a whole lot. Do you know him? Have you ever interacted with him? I think it's scary for a woman to approach a man about this issue. But if you can, it would be a good idea to have a little talk with him about it. But just be careful. If he's a nice guy it won't be much of a problem. You can go to your apartment manager and say something, and then the manager can tell him. It would be safer for you that way, but you risk having him give you an "evil eye" when you pass by him. That has happened to me. Also he may tag you if you do something wrong (called tit for tat). I posted about this on the Anxiety Forum - titled Now Having Anxiety About My Apartment.
It's funny how living in an apartment and living so close to others can be lonely, and yet, putting up with other people seems more common than making connections.
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I talk to my parents over the phone who live overseas once a week. That's about how much I talk in a week. Almost no personal interactions, except at the supermarket when I need to ask about things.
About my neighbour, he is really rude and not that nice. At first I complained to my landlord, and at the moment he would lower the music, but soon after he would increase the volume and the intensity of the bass. I went once to him close to midnight after playing music for 4 straight hours and excercisng and dropping weights on the floor hard, and explained to him that I can hear everything he does (even when he walks normally with his shoes off), and asked him nicely to lower things down (not to stop), but he slammed the door in my face saying he has a life and I need to adapt to his way of life!! 
I don't understand this to be honest, when I wash the dishes I like to listen to music, but I put on my head my wireless headsets and listen to it alone, without disturbing anyone else. And for the exercising, he can go out and exercise if he is running or jumping, which I suspect he does. For the weight lifting he can go to the gym (he was doing this even before the lock-down, so the lock-down is not the reason he is doing it at his apartment). Residential buildings are not for these things. I am thinking to start calling the police as my landlord is not willing to do anything about it, and the situation doesn't allow me to move out. It's becoming very annoying all day long with this work from home reality  .
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