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Jul 29, 2020 at 10:51 AM
I believe I redeemed Mother's Day by ending the cycle of generational abuse with my own children. I did not require my kids to cope with my issues, I am there for them, and I certainly never thought to take out my anger and hurt on them. Even before I remembered abusive episodes, I was determined to be a safe, protective, and unconditionally loving mother. This is redemptive.
On Mother's Day, my kids and I used to plant in the garden flowers they got for my gift. Lovely, colorful new life. 
However, I rarely share my feelings about my original mother because I find people are even more shocked when the abuser is the maternal unit than when it's a father. And those reactions used to reinforce my feeling of being a freak whose own mother couldn't love her. In fact of course, she was the "unnatural" one. And I am the one who became the first in generations of loving parents. It's humbling. I thank God!
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