My sister in law is the kind of person who will immediately ghost you and not speak to you for several years if you don't agree with everything she says and always walk 2 paces behind her. She has a long history of holding long grudges.
She held one against my husband for 7 years because he disagreed with her on a political matter. 3 years ago, she attacked me through social media with false accusations of prejudice and gossip. I counter argued with facts trying to make her see she was wrong and rather than call me to talk through it, she shut me out of her life and never spoke to me or anyone in my family again. So here we are in 2020, my daughter just celebrated her 16th birthday. Today in the mail was a gift from my SIL (initial necklace with a diamond in it for my daughter) and a note to my daughter telling her how special she is and she deserves diamonds for her special birthday and how much her auntie loves her. By the way, my other daughter just had a birthday and was ignored by this woman. Where was this woman for the past 3 birthdays my kids had? She was no where, silent, a ghost....totally ignored my kids existence for the past 3 years. I call BS on this!!! I have no patience for someone who attacked me 3 years ago and almost cost me my marriage who now thinks she can waltz back in giving my kid gifts (only one of my kids) like nothing ever happened. I feel it's a set up. My husband's mother is elderly and trying to push in on someone to live with them. My SIL does not want her at her house so I think this is a way to soften us up so the blow of kicking my elderly mother in law into our house is easier to take and we'll say yes to it. Cause all I can think of is, why now? After 3 years this woman suddenly rears her head with showers of gifts and lovey dovey notes. I know for a fact she's a master manipulator and a major narcissist. I'm not buying what she's selling! I'd appreciate some other opinions on this. Thanks for reading this.