@pandabear0927, how old are both of you? You sound very eager to make some big and important changes in both of your lives, so I am wondering how old you are and where the eagerness to make a big change is coming from? Your title says a lot about where you're coming from emotionally-- are you depressed and anxious and therefore feel like making these sweeping and vast changes will improve everything? What about trying to tackle your depression and anxiety in other ways? Are you being treated? Are you in therapy and are you on any medications? Pushing your partner when he's not ready is not going to get you anywhere. Both people have got to want those big changes and be ready for them. He may have his own issues that are preventing him from making any changes, but you also cannot push him. However, he should be able to communicate where he stands on each of these issues and shouldn't be changing the subject. He may be feeling pressured by you. Just guessing. There's a lot going on between feeling depressed and anxious, not being happy at work, wanting marriage and children in your future and wanting big changes in your life. I say slow down and tackle the depression and anxiety first. And maybe at some point you can approach him again, and let him know that he keeps changing the subject about important topics you wish to discuss, and ask why.