I had to think on this one a bit. T has sent me an email once that he initiated. I had opted to skip session that week to spend the day with H seeing as it was our anniversary and my birthday. I told T a couple weeks in advance. Anyway... when I got home after a nice day with H I checked email and found one from T. He sent it about 15 min before my appointment time letting me know he was thinking of me, it was odd knowing he wouldn’t see me and he hoped I had a good day. I thought, given it was my birthday, it was very kind of him. It was a very hard decision to skip T that day... I would have preferred a longer session but... it was the right, adult thing to do... anyway, I thought it was kind and thoughtful. However, just out of the blue and more than one... I might find odd unless there was something that made him think of me. So, yeh, I think it would bug me and I know it would be upsetting to H if he found out. Once in a while for a specific reason... yeh... frequent random? Not so much.