Yall! Thank you so much for yall's genuine insight and inputs.

I feel the same about the whole "50 minute" sessions. They make no sense. A full hour is required for me at the very least. 50 minutes or less helps no one seeking therapy.


Thank you Lemoncake for the 90 minute session suggestion! I may end up talking to T about that idea. It may depend on insurance and billing since she bills my insurance and I just pay a $25 copay for each session. I believe T knows the fact that I need longer to get my stuff out, process, and talk my head out because I have my 3rd session in a row with her tomorrow. I was surprised at the fact she wanted to go ahead and schedule a 3rd session this week, but I'm not complaining!


Omers, I understand buddy! I definitely could do a whole lot more with 2 hours than I can with 1 hour, but that would probably clean me out eventually because I couldn't afford the price tag and I have no clue if my insurance will accept that bill either! Since I'm having 3 sessions in a row this week I believe T does understand without me saying a thing that I need the extra time, however we can do it. I may talk to her about doing a 2 hour session here and there when we process the biggies I have to work through. When I saw her years ago on a sliding scale fixed price she did do some 2 hour sessions with me. This time around it will depend on billing and insurance.

Elio, thank you for your honesty. It's refreshing. I too deal with transference with T. I'm embarrassed to admit how much I like and genuinely enjoy sharing time with T. I think that has to do with the fact that she and I just click. When all said and done though, I would prefer going to therapy to work through my head with someone I genuinely get along with as it makes it super easy to build trust to open up. So since you're letting your transference feelings fly free, so will I! If the transference is actually helping our therapy progress than let's continue to let it work for us!


Lilymop I totally get those lingering issues/feelings as well! It's like I'm holding my breath until the next session. T wants me to start writing. I'm not the writing my thoughts/feelings type of person, but maybe I can start writing my lingering feelings right after the end of a session so then we can come back to that moment in my next session! Have you thought about sharing any of your written down lingering feelings with T?


Comrademoomoo, I would say if that therapeutic relationship worked for you than keeping doing you, but since it seems to be stressing you out maybe it seems like you could have outgrown this therapy situation? I know I didn't listen to my instinct with my last T who "broke up" with me and it devastated me so much that I couldn't continue with therapy as I felt so much resentment towards basically restarting therapy with another T and going back through everything. If maybe I had ended that therapy relationship when I knew deep down that T couldn't be the therapist I needed for my issues than maybe I wouldn't have soured on therapy and swore it off for over a year allowing my mental health to deteriorate in the process. I'm not saying any of this would be you in any possible way. I'm only sharing what happened with me when I turned my back on my gutteral instincts and signs staring me in the face. I hope you figure your situation out and that in the end it works out for what is best for you!