Determination to conquer the past is an engine that won't quit. There is life beyond that dysfunctional family, that abusive person, that traumatic event, that unbearable loss. It encourages me when my years of therapy and reading and effort result in not just a new life for me but insight for others who are living now what I survived years ago, both originally and in the healing. The scars remain, literal and figurative, but we are not defeated. Toughcooki, your name is apt. And all of us can picture many measurable victories and a medal and a parade.