Your daughter is becoming a young lady now too. She is not a kid anymore and it’s important your emotions about this not be projected onto her. I am saying this to you because your daughter is at the age now where she can start learning how to set boundaries when others try to project their emotions onto her. She will come across this challenge many times in her life so this is actually a good opportunity to teach her how to identify projections and not accept these projections. She can learn how to develop healthy emotional boundaries for herself. These ARE important years for our children to learn this.

This aunt that lashes out or ghosts others that have different opinions is clearly a person who is insecure. She practices punishing behaviors when others do not agree with her. This is a character trait that your daughter should learn about and how to navigate when encountering this kind of person.