Well you are attractive and confident and a fun loving woman. You attracted this guy because you are a neat object he wanted to play with and have for his own ego feed. Narcissists learn grooming techniques to pull people to them. They learn petting techniques that keep others involved with them so they get their ego feed. Every time he pulls you back in he gets his ego fed. It’s never about caring about you instead it’s all about his own ego.

Lots of people get drawn in by this kind of person not just you. Yes they can have a seeming sweet loving side to them. They can work hard on this part as it gets them what THEY want. It’s bait they know works to get control of others for their narcissistic feed.