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Old Jul 30, 2020, 01:54 PM
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Originally Posted by LilyMop View Post
Thank you. I really appreciate the feedback you’ve given me these past few days. I view you as someone who is a straight shooter and doesn’t say things you don’t mean.

I’m fortunate to have finally found a good therapist. She really has helped me so much. It took years to finally find someone but I know part of the problem was me not being fully ready to face many things.

I’ll keep taking her advice. The nice thing about social distancing is nobody questions that you keep to yourself a lot these days.

Somebody asked me to do something today that has nothing to do with my job responsibilities and I just played dumb so they went away. I’m doing that quite a bit lately. I just say I don’t know. It still feels weird and like I am being a bit rude but it also feels better at the same time. I’m definitely helpful to the coworkers who always pitch in and help me... like my counselor says, I’ll only put effort into the people who reciprocate.

You’re right, my own behavior was hurting me and I won’t do it anymore. Thank you.
I'm so glad you found a good therapist!!! They're hard to find.

And yes, you are correct. I never say anything I don't truly mean, and I am a straight shooter.

That's awesome that you played innocent with the extra task asked of you -- good work!!!!! I applaud you!

And. yes, stick with those in your tribe, so to speak. Those who reciprocate and who are like-minded people. That's true in life as well.

I am a cheering squad for you..... I am rooting for you!!!! Keep up the great work. It will feel strange for a bit, but then it will become the new normal for you.

Hugs to you, HH.
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Thanks for this!
LilyMop