Hello

I know I put this in the work section but I am posting here because this is regarding a friend from work I am in contact with.

So this guy used to be a manager in a department I worked for, for a while. It was only a temporary assignment but I was there for longer than expected. He is single and lives on his own so far as I am aware. Me, I am married, have been so for 2 years just over.

Anyway this guy sexually harassed me but I didn't report it because the whole thing had stunned me and I had been abused as a child (I am now 35) He also tried to appeal to his own manager to keep on permanently but the appeals kept falling through and eventually the assignment with him had to expire so was out of his control.

This guy did NOT want me to take on phone work, but this is what I now do. And I didn't expect to get this job but I have it. This guy found out and I have learned he is now asking others who used to work with me for my personal information.

One of my friends I used to work with and who still works with him is happy I got the job and has been writing on my social media wall. I thought, ok, that's fine. But my confidence has been lacking because of my scores and the errors I have been making and I have considered leaving the company.

My friend immediately contacted me asking why I was considering leaving and I told her. The following day I received an email from my social media account asking me to accept the ex manager as a friend and this was around about the time I was expected to start work (I was on a later shift so I wasn't around at that time)

But, since I told her I have been considering leaving and telling her the issues I have had, she has been liking my photos which she never did before all of this (and this guy admitted to looking at my photos before which is casting doubt in my mind) and also, this guy told me he wouldn't be happy if I left the company. But I don't know what he would do if I did!

They are both friends on social media but she is only friends with me, he is not friends with me but as she has been messaging me instead it is giving me the impression that she is telling him what I have been thinking about doing.

If this friend is indeed spying on me (and I have a really deep suspicion about this because of my past experience with inappropriate advances from other guys but none from work) how can I go about asking her? Or should I ask a different friend who no longer speaks to the ex manager but still speaks to her?

I probably sound really paranoid right now but any help with this is appreciated. Thank you guys