From this article, The 4 types of people narcissists are attracted to - Insider

According to psychotherapist Karen Arluck, who was answering a post on Quora, generally speaking, most people with narcissistic personality disorder want to feel good about themselves, so they gravitate towards people who will make that happen. Either they will feel special through association, or they will feel powerful in taking down someone who appears mentally, physically, or emotionally strong.

There are four types of people who narcissists tend to be attracted to, according to Arluck:

1. People who are impressive in some way, either in their career, hobbies and talents, their friendship circles, or family.
2. Someone who will make the narcissist feel good about themselves, through compliments or gestures.
3. Anyone who will reflect well on them in the eyes of other people.
4. Someone who validates their feelings, overlooks their flaws, and who isn't likely to leave them during the narcissistic abuse.

So, really anyone can attract a narcissist. So the next question you may want to ask yourself is: why did you keep going back, after you saw the traits and abusiveness? Perhaps something to explore with a therapist.

Sometimes, we hold onto a toxic relationship due to fear of being alone, a fear that no one else will want us, and low self esteem. The thought sometimes is, well something is better than nothing.

Perhaps there were red flags early on that you ignored, explained away or dismissed? If so, what were they? Love bombing early in the relationship is a big red flag indicating trouble ahead.... can you think of other red flags you may have ignored?

Learning what the red flags are, and how to avoid them next time is a great lesson for the future.

Now it's time to continue no contact and rebuild your self esteem and self worth. And don't lose your nerve and break no contact. That's exactly what he wants is your attention. Don't give it to him. You've dealt with too much abuse already. Stay no contact, and work on your own healing and mending.

Do you have a therapist? If not, you may want to seek counseling services to help you through this.

Hugs to you. I'm so sorry you had to deal with such a nightmare. Good news is, you got out and now you can be on the mend.