I can't imagine the stress it causes you as her mother as I"m not a mother myself. Aside from hiring a professional deprogrammer (look up Rick Alan Ross), if you want to treat this situation with your daughter and her lesbian lover as the equivalence of your daughter being brainwashed like she's in a cult; you'd have to get the police involved through hiring a private detective to get your daughter removed from that woman's home.

But since your daughter is 21 years old, she's recognized as an adult by the state. So, it is unlikely that the state would help you unless she also had a drug or alcohol addiction that was being effected by living with her lover.

Do you have a healthy relationship with your daughter now? Has there ever been acrimony between you and her? Have you been overbearing or controlling towards her in her past?

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