Hi there, I've only come to the forum this year, but I hope it's ok to still answer you.

It's so nice to hear you have found a sponsor you feel comfortable with. I know you said you are worried she will think you are dependent if you tell her about crossing your therapists boundaries. But it sounds more like it was your therapist that crossed the lines first and made it possible for you to cross that final boundary.

Maybe you could let her know how much your therapists behaviour affected you...the pain it caused when she led you on and let you down like this...the pressure of being stuck in a counter/transference relationship is horrible and not your fault.

I don't feel like any of this makes you seem dependent at all. The fact that you are free of them now, having a healthy relationship with a sponsor you trust and would like to share things with, I feel these are all signs you are becoming quite independent.