I'm sorry you are in pain and I say the following as someone who also felt much pain owing to therapy. but that list is unrealistic and completely one-sided. Your set of criteria place the onus of responsibility solely on the Ts' shoulders. This robs the clients of their sense of agency and responsibility. What is the client's part in all of that??

A client isn't a helpless child who goes blind into therapy. A modicum of research and responsibility falls on the Client's shoulders.

Seriously, how can anyone stop anyone else fantasising or getting attached? This is frankly ridiculous. This is the nature of transference, attachment or even projection - the other person doesn't even have to do or say anything to 'lead us on' but we do so anyway. How is placing the blame on someone else i.e. the T helpful?! It is merely denial of responsibility.