I agree Lonelyinmyheart. I was going by the general 'protocol' list.

However, speaking about this particular T, they clearly don't want to (can't?) do the work with the OP. And that is on the T. It is not so much that the T isn't skilled or competent to work on attachment or transference etc. but the way this T goes about it is, imo, completely wrong.

As hard and painful as it is, we can't make people stay and/or work with us. This T doesn't seem equipped (skill set, competence, professionalism) to help.